Do you believe in bad luck in love?

Dear Courageous One,

Superstition. Tradition. Old Wives Tales. They surround us all the time. Especially here in Hawaii where we are rich in culture and flooded with Taboos and Kapus (Kapu is Hawaiian for “Forbidden”). 

Are you someone who believes in bad luck? Today is our second and last Friday the thirteenth of 2024. Was it something you noticed and took extra precautions for? Or is it just another day for you?

Either way, it got me thinking. Do I or did I ever believe in bad luck when it came to love? 

For me personally, I grew up in a highly superstitious family. Don’t whistle in the house at night or you will welcome bad spirits into our home. Don’t take pork over the Pali or Madam Pele (the fire goddess) will pay you a visit. 

But when it came to the relationships in our family, I never really felt that we had “bad luck,” we just weren’t that good at it! Curse or just plain old toxic generational patterns, I knew I wanted to break, what I call, the cycle of insanity in my family. 

And if you’re here reading my Marriage Mindshift message, you too have felt the calling. You are here to change the trajectory of your family. To forge a new way. To try something new. 

One thing I know for sure is each and every one of us has the power within to determine our destiny and create something different for our future generations. 

The question I get asked most often is HOW. How do I break the cycle, break the curse, change our trajectory, transform my relationship? 

Well the answer is simple, master your mindset. 

If you believe in bad luck, you will experience it in your life. If you believe that men aren’t trustworthy, then you will find men who lie and cheat. If you believe that your spouse won’t change, it’s likely they won't. 

This is the time of year for reflection. Today, as you endeavor through this magical day of the  year, take some time to check in with yourself. See where you have subtle, sneaky, automatic beliefs that continue to hold you back from the life and relationship you would love. 

Are you being mindful of the thoughts you’re thinking or are you letting your automatic subconscious thoughts control your life?

Always seek to increase your awareness, align with your highest self, and take action. I believe in you. You got this!

Until next time, keep questioning, keep challenging, and above all, keep loving fiercely.

Yours Truly,

Your Marriage Mindshift Coach